Okay lets be honest, some people take incredible photo’s – well I am not one of them
I just received my new Driver’s License. Being Canadian – the new thing is you can not smile for any of your Legal Documents. My Drivers Licence, a real “mug shot”. Now I say that with most photo’s I take, since am just so unphotogenic, but this one has to be the worst.
Why may you ask am I bringing this up? Well, I have spoken about this before, you can’t just look at a photo and say this person is not for me. Over the years I have seen some really bad photo’s on the site, and then you meet them….or they update the photo…
We hear all the time, “I met the person and they didn’t look at all like the photo” well maybe consider this, a photo that has no appeal to you, the person may be incredible, or have such a amazing personality that you look at them so differently.
Don’t judge the person by a photo on a website, take the chance and you may be surprised
Give someone a chance.
Today is my anniversary – a few months ago I wrote how different my husband and I are. Well we talked about this as we sat over dinner.
What brought us together, I still don’t know. Why are we together? The difference’s we have. Well, it is true – but we are together – and we are making it work – open up think what is necessary for a committed relationship. Right now you may need excitement, travel, the outings, but what will you need later on.
I will let you in on something else, my parents – who never had a great marriage. But today as my mother is ill – I watch how my father has been so incredible helping her, helping out around the house, and being there for her. Other men may have left, is this the ideal situation, NO. But I would prefer to have some difference’s with someone and know that they will be around in the later years as well, then to have all the fun and action – but when things get really difficult – they may not be there -
I am not saying don’t look for this – but also really ask yourself – if you meet someone with great inner strength – and wonderful qualities even if they do not have the personality you may have hoped for, or the physical attributes you wished for, don’t say no so quickly – give them a chance – you may surprise yourself
Summer is just weeks away what a great time to get and and explore. There are so many different activities today for Jewish Singles.
Want to take a vacation – why not go on one of the many Jewish Singles trips. Weekend Get-A-Way, Shabbaton’s are a wonderful way to meet. Or even just sign up with some of the local Jewish Organizations for day trips. Check out your local community activities and I am sure you will find something.
If you don’t meet your future partner, well you may just have an amazing time anyways. Enjoy your summer, have fun and let’s hope that this year will be “the year” for all of you.
We are all looking for the ideal match – (or for some looked) – but will we find it. I think this sums it up – and for the person who gave it me if you are reading the Blog - I thank you
“It is probably better to get a Good man/(woman) w/ a Good soul, than to try to obtain a perfect match on paper”
Is it Jewish Dating so difficult – or dating in general. The answer – dating in general. Putting two people together – it is hard enough to meet someone, and when you do – figure out if they are someone you would like to see again.
Wouldn’t it be easy if we can meet a person, and let it just happen easily – but for some reason it is not easy. Dating, and figuring out how to meet is hard work – just like so many things in our life. SO look at dating as one more challenge in our life..and just to let you know – when you do meet – it is more difficult to keep the relationship together.
Oh. why can’t things be easy????
Okay this is something we hear all the time when trying to make matches.
“We are so different” – why would you even think about this as a potential partner..know why ???
Let me tell you…I am married 9 years now – and I really don’t know too many things that my husband and I are compatible with.
We went on a trip the other day with my daughters and 200 other people. It was amazing – a wonderful hike in an incredible Canyon – it was so beaufiful – as we where walking though – his comment – “okay why are we doing this…”
Then a Jeep Tour through the Desert – we are driving through – to me it was so amazing to have the opportunity to experience this, him – no animals – same scenery…”are we having fun yet..”
Then another incredible experience - a Bedoin telling stories in the tent and enjoying Tea and snacks then a Camel ride..(okay the camel ride I can understand – a little difficult for men to be in the saddle) – but what a day.
(Yes I live in Israel)…but to be able to take a trip like this and in one day have the experience’s we did..his comments – are we having fun…why are we doing this…
Vacation’s I love them – to experience new things – get away what ever we do I look at as an experience, and to open my (our) eyes to new things..he is happy at home.
It is not only activities..child rearing, music, he likes being at home, me I need to go out and explore, have fun ..
Yes we are different and I question how and why we are together – but we are together and happily married, yes we have our differences but we work it out, and make it work. Just because you may not be with someone who is “compatible” doesn’t mean it won’t work. Sometime’s we have to open up and really look at other qualities that the person has. What was it for me..I know what ever happens he will be there for me – in sickness, for me and my family, he is supportive – and will encourage me – and HE IS THERE FOR ME..
So figure out what you really want – and what is important to you, you may be surprised..
As we are days away from Passover = no matter how religious, traditional, non-religious you are, most Jews around the world will gather with there family and celebrate in one way or another the freedom of the Jews.
This is also a time where so many single people will be sitting with there family – and realize that maybe it is time to start – or hope to find there potential partner in the coming year.
Maybe next year you will have that person with you – as you sit around the table. SO enjoy the celebrations and hopefully this year will bring you your life partner.
Jewish Dating – no different then dating in general…just network – you send out resumes for a new job, well today dating is simlar. You have to “sell” yourself. With all the on-line sites out there, if you want to meet you have to come up with a way to make your profile different then all the others. Be creative, but don’t write a book..no one wants to read your life story
I just came back from a wedding ceremony. It was so nice to watch as the young couple stood under the Chuppah. Being a matchmaker, I hope that one day I can experience watching one of “my couples” under the Chuppah. So far I have made the matches but the distance was to great for me to be part of the simcha.
You see so many couples today, and the amounts are growing for people to meet, and how..on-line. It still is incredible to think how modern technology has brought so many people together. SO if you are thinking about joining a site…hey might as well put a plug here for ours..(if you are religious, Sawyouatsinai..if not then Jretromatch), go for it..maybe yours will be the next Chuppah I can be part of.
Wow, the last time was a month ago, and the same words. It has happened again. I got the message that I made another match. I spoke to her, and she is so thrilled – and thankful.
No – I am thankful that I can do this, bring a couple together. What was even better, in one week – we found out that there where 2 engagements on our site, another matchmaker as well. This is so thrilling for us.
So you never know when it could happen, I tell members when they ask we or complain when the are not getting enough matches. It only takes “one”. When will that “one” be, I can’t answer that question. Will it be from the site, through a friend, or meeting someone on the street? I don’t know. So keep trying everything, speak to anyone and everyone. I keep saying this, everyone possible resource available to you, you never know how or when it will happen to you.
Lets just continue to match, and hope that next week (and this one) will bring us many more engagements.