Jewish Dating Blog | The inside scoop – Jewish Dating wisdom from the Matchmaker

I remember when I was dating, I was so frustrated with having to start over again each time I met a new person. I felt like a broken record, repeating the same story about my life that seemed to fascinate most men and get me to keep dating them for awhile. Then things usually fizzled off because of the lack of chemistry or attraction and I would find myself again at square one, having to tell another guy all about me and what I was looking for. It was so tiring and frustrating. Being the ever optimist what I learned to do after each guy was to re-evaluate what I was looking for and what was really important in a match. I really started to feel that each guy I met brought me closer to finding my match as I learned more about myself and what I was looking for. Try to make the best out of dating and make it as much of a positive experience as possible. Make it a way for you to grow, to get to know more about yourself. You might as well since you will be hearing your life story over and over again :)

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You have been spending so much time dating, that once in awhile it may be worth it to stop and take a break. Clear your head, refocus, and relax. You may need a few weeks or months. But after the break you may feel a little better about the process

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Ok I know, the sign up process can be long and just when you thought it was over you get to that box with the line on top that says min. of 25 characters. You all know what I am talking about and I have also been guilty of getting to that spot and not wanting to write. The problem is that this is the most important part of your profile. Without a well thought of answer it not only makes it hard for the matchmakers to make a match for you but also for other members to really get a feel for what you are like. Take your time, even if you sign up one day and only fill that in the next few days that is fine. A well written profile will get you much further with online Jewish dating. Think of your profile as your resume, it should highlight the best things about you and give a reflection of what you are like. Also don’t make it too long or too short either way the reader will get lost or bored. I also highly recommend you asking a good friend to read it over for you or at least ask one of us matchmakers for some advice on it. What should be written? Talk a bit about yourself, who you are, what you like to do, where you see yourself going in the future. Mention things that are important to you in your life. Imagine you are on your first date, and you really are excited about this person, what are some of the first things you would want to tell him or her? The next important paragraph is describing what you are looking for. Make it brief and not a list but give a general idea of what you think would be an ideal match. For those of you who don’t know and should know there is actually a box you can write things just to us matchmakers. I think it really helpful to the matchmakers and gives us a little extra info about what you are looking for that you might not want to have mentioned earlier.

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Jul/07

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Help Us Help you

I know the idea of using a third party such as a matchmaker is new to most of you and you might be unsure of how the relationship should work. Basically we are here to help you find that great match but the only way that we can do this is by you helping us. What I mean is by opening the communication lines. Some of my members I know very well and can spot a great match for them almost immediately where as other members are more difficult to match because the information they gave me and the communication between us has been almost nil. Now saying that I don’t mean you need to drop me a line everyday telling me what you had for dinner (but recipes are always welcome…lol) but when you get a match tell me why you think it is a great idea or isnt a great idea. When you call your match let me know how the phone call went. The more you let me know, the better the matches I can make for you because I will get to know you better and what you are looking for. I can’t promise that all my matches will be perfect, because mister or misses perfect may not have signed up yet (but he or she can be signing up right now to Jretromatch, that is what makes it so much fun!) but they definitely will be in the right ball park.

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Don’t give up, don’t let anyone tell you that you are getting to old to find your partner, too old for children, (there is always adoption), or you are not marriage material. If you really want to get married, then just continue to look at all your options to dating, till the right person come’s your way.

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I remember when I was dating, the idea of internet dating was still looked at as being very weird and most of us did not talk about how we met this guy on the internet (it was not that long ago!). Now the market has exploded and there are tons of dating sites. How does one go about choosing which site is the best for them and will meet their needs. Personally when I had my profile exposed to the 1000′s I never felt really comfortable. I didn’t need everyone to know about me and what I was looking for. I am a working professional; I don’t have hours a day to browse profiles to find my dream date.  When I first heard about Jretromatch.com I thought wow what a fantastic idea. Here my profile can be private, someone else is doing all the work for me in looking for a match and I won’t get any unwanted e-mails from strange men. The great thing also about Jretromatch is that the matchmakers take note of the people who are not being honest in their profiles and we ask them to fix it accordingly. We hope we can eliminate the dates where you show up thinking he is 6″5 and he really is 5″9(by the way the best way for us to find out this info is by you letting us know when it happens to we can prevent it from happening to the next person).

 Now that I have found my dream date, it is quite fun to help you find yours. Now all we got to do is get all the Jewish singles to sign up for Jretromatch.com and I can help everyone find their match :) Go spread the word!

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and even when you are not. Stay active, enjoy life. Don’t let the dating scene be the only outlet in your life. Between dates this will get really lonely. Be your own person, when dating this will come out, and you will be a better person for it. If you are out there enjoying yourself, Museums, Coffee Shops, Sports, whatever you enjoy to do, will also give you something to talk about on your date.

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Jul/07

18

Feedback to Matchmakers

Today while I was looking for matches, I noticed how many pending matches where sitting in my inbox. I have made in the past 10 days more then 88 matches and still some people have not responded to them. To me it seems kind of weird, people sign up on the site, and say they want to meet someone and then when I make the effort to find them a match they don’t respond to it. I am trying to give them the benefit of the doubt, maybe they are on vacation and forgot to change their status to reflect that, maybe they don’t want to insult me by declining the match (by the way us matchmakers do not get insult when you turn down the match, we just would like to know why so we can help you better in the future), or maybe they are not so serious about dating.  I would love if anyone out there is a member of Jretromatch.com or any other dating site let me know why you don’t respond to matches. I think the insight would be helpful to us matchmakers. We really care and want to help so a little feedback is all we need :)

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Jul/07

17

Matchmaker,Matchmaker …

For some of you, the idea of using a matchmaker to help you find your match might sound a bit old fashioned. True it is an old concept, but if it worked in the past, why change it? Think about it: are most of us able to find the love of our life at the bar down the street? Or do most of us meet that special someone through a friend or family member who acts as a matchmaker? So you see using a matchmaker is not so crazy after all. Seriously, us matchmakers on Jretromatch love what we do and want to help you find that special match. Talk to us, tell us what you are looking for, give us feedback, the more you are in touch with us the better we can help you. Looking forward to helping you find your match!

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Jul/07

17

Welcome to my Jewish dating blog!

When I first encountered the idea of blogs, I thought great here is away for people to have their Diaries online, why would someone want to do that? Little did I know it would become one of the in things to do. So here I am sharing my thoughts and feeling with you :) I have been a matchmaker now for Jretromatch.com for a year and half and I would have to say I learned a lot about dating and matching up singles. I am looking forward to sharing my thoughts and hearing from you soon.

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