Make a List!
I would like you to do a little exercise. Take a piece of paper, and fold it in half. Okay, now, on each side write down the 5 things that you are looking for in a partner, and on the other side the 5 things that you will not accept in one.
Now really look at your list, and put it in you back pocket, or even put it away. Still look at the list occassionally, but note the following.
Is the person you want to meet, will they be there for you in tragedy? If you put down certain physical traits, after a few children, and age, will that physical trait still be around, will they still love me in not? If they loose there job, will they be willing to take any type of position, even if it is a “little beneath them” to make a living?
This are just a few examples of things you should ask yourself.
There is a typical “story” when discussing dating. There is one guy who is so attractive and has alot of money, and the other guy who is not so handsome, is working but financially things are pay check to pay check. Which one would you pick?
Well, what happens if you find out the the first one got is money from stealing? The second, is hard working and then through a tradegy in life he will be so supportive and there for you every step of the way. Who will be the better person in the end, well to me the second one, no doubt.
Remember, money isn’t everything, it helps but it doesn’t make a good marriage. Looks, change over time, you won’t have so much free time to head to the gym once you have a family, or after a few children. Don’t necessarily look at the person for there physical traits, yes there has to be attraction, but what will remain through all, is the character of the person, what is inside, that is what you have to look at for, that is what will keep you going through life.
So really look at that list, and decide what is it that is really important in the long run, for you and your family. Now go out and meet someone, and this time, forget about your list.