Do you have a check list, toss it. Take things slow and see if you are compatible, does s/he make you feel good about yourself, enjoy each others company, and let conversation flow. Have general conversation as if you are talking to your best friend, or even the stranger in the check out line, and enjoy yourself. Don’t talk about personal issues, especially about ex – spouse’s and/or boyfriends. Talk about your hopes and dreams, things you enjoy to do.