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Baggage and Dating

 None of us are baggage free. Some of us have 12 suitcases full while others have a small ziplock bag.  One of the best quotes I read in someone’s profile about this is “I don’t mind if she has baggage but it should be the carry-on kind”. I thought that summed it up very well. No one can escape from their past. Whether it is a nasty childhood or a bad divorce all these experiences shape who we are for the good and for the bad. It is how we deal with them that will make all the difference.

I should know about baggage. Both my husband and I did not have easy childhoods and I was in an abusive relationship for many years. Both these things were affecting my relationships until one day I took things in hand and learned how to turn my check in bag into carry on bag. It is not an overnight process and it still continues to this day but it is 100% necessary in order to have our relationship thrive.

There are many ways to deal with this problem. You can get professional help or you can pick some great books out there that are very helpful. The next time you are in a relationship and you see the same negative patterns reappearing, maybe start thinking of cleaning up some baggage.

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