Please, please….when you commit to on-line dating part of the process is to review matches. DOn’t let them seat around and “time-out” or just don’t respond to them. You ask as to make matches, we do, then you just don’t follow-up. PLease reveiw the matches, and make your decision either way, accept or decline but don’t let them go.

You may think you are being the “nice person” you don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings by not accepting. Well, from what we hear, it is worse to let the match just go, shows you not being considerate.

Or, you finanlly get a mutually approved match, and what do you do, nothing…Please follow-up. Look at yourselves, and think, if you want to really meet someone, then you will have to do some work.

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As an on-line matchmaker, I see so many people declining the matches. Why? You never know who the right person will be. It is better to accept the match and meet up, then never to accept and not know. Photo’s, profile’s – these is not the main thing, how many people can’t articulate themselves on paper and be the best person to be around, or can write so well and when you meet them, have nothing to say.

As long as there is nothing that “turns you off”, why not just say YES.

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Love at first sight” is a familiar romantic notion. And in our increasingly fast-paced world, it’s darn convenient to think you can tell if you click with someone that quickly. But experts recommend cultivating a bit more patience, sticking to a three-date minimum to know for sure whether you’re a match (or not). The reason: People are a bundle of nerves on date #1, begin to unwind on date #2, but only by date #3 can people truly relax and maybe build some rapport. And while sparks early on are nice and all, they say nothing about someone’s long-term potential. “An important part of a compatible relationship is assuring that each partner’s values coincide, and to learn that takes time, discussion, observation, and interpersonal interaction, not an initial impression based on superficial cues,” says James C. Piers, Ph.D., professor and program director of social work, at Hope College in Holland, MI. So, don’t write someone off — or fall head over heels — until you’ve done due diligence.

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You are out on a date, and get into a “heated” discussion on an interest or belief one of you may have. Instead of making this into a debate, or clearly showing how you may not agree in this situation, why not try to turn it into a Discussion. Ask questions, show some interest, even if you don’t agree, but the other person may feel strongly about it.

None of us will have the same opinion about everything, but it shouldn’t be the time to get into how you don’t. Try to turn the situation around, or change the subject. If this is something that you can’t see yourself being part of, or “living with” then you know this person is not for you.

But try to make the best of the situation, and you know it will just mean you won’t hear from each other again.

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Are men and woman so different. It use to be the men would not committ to a relationship. They would want to see how many woman they could go out with before they had to settle down. Are woman so different today?

 Is the “corporate woman” becoming the same way? Is the busy lifestyle taking over, for time to meet and settle down? Maybe you all have to step back a bit and reconsider what you want for your future? The 60 hour work week, or a family to leave the office for? A family to come home to, a spouse to be by your side for the future, and children to be born and to be part of somethingso special.

Time to think – and look at your life. What is it that you really want?

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Conversation is the way that most people will determine if that person is for them, and if they would like to go out again. But some people are amazing, and conversation is not there strong point. You may have to see how they react in certain situations or be with others to see there interaction to know that they are who they are.

See about compatibility, traits that you know the person is strong in, or that you made of heard about. Some people are really terrible “first dates” give them an oppportunity and go out again.

Look for other signs in this person. Speak to others who may know them. Don’t just presume that things won’t work out because you can’t have a flowing conversation, or if you find yourself being the one to initiate the way it goes.

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