When I speak to someone, they always tell me what they want in a person, I want this look, I want this education level, I want, I want, I want.

What does this say to you, will you be expecting – I want..in your relationship as well. Lets look at this a little. Instead maybe ask yourself, what type of person – who will make you a better person, someone who will work together to build a wonderful home, and family. Someone who is open, honest, and gives to others.

Look for the qualities that will stay forever. A person who is tall, dark, and handsome today, may only keep is height later in years. A woman who is beautiful and thin, after a few children may put on a few pounds, may or may not age well over time.

Look for the lasting qualities, not the superficial ones. Your perfect partner may be the last person you would think would be suitable. So don’t judge someone by there picture, or how they appear to write a profile, give yourself the opportunity to meet or at least to speak with them.

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I had a question asked to me recently – what do you do to let someone know that you want to take things slow – and not have a physical relationship.

My answer: This is not something that you have to discuss on the first few dates, if either person brings this up, after a few dates, and you are not ready. Be honest. Never feel like you have to have the relationship go to a physical one until you are ready, or some decide to wait for marriage.

If the person doesn’t want to wait, puts pressure on you, or just can’t respect you for these wishes, they are not right for you. Don’t feel pressured, only you will know when/if you are ready.

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You want to try to figure out what you should discuss on the first date. I always say it is a time to get to know each other a little. See if there is enough interest to go out again.

You will probably have an idea of what interests the person has, or what they like to do. Some of the topics of discussion can be around this. If they enjoy movies, speak about them, which films have they seen recently, what did they like/dislike about it.  Books, Sports, what ever the interests are.

Another subject to discuss is friend’s. From here you get an idea how loyal a person they are, do they have many friends, and how far back to they go. Do they meet people easily and maintain strong “ties” with these people. Family as well, how close are they. Even if they all live in different cities, or even countries do they keep in touch with one another?

You can learn a lot about each other, just by making small talk. Go ahead, come up with a few questions that you can think of, and start asking. Don’t make it sound like an interview, try to keep it flowing, and respond back, get into the conversation as well.

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It’s funny, certain times of the year we see an increase in members. Rosh Hashanah, Passover, during the summer, and of course Valentine’s Day. Why is this?

During the holiday’s I guess that is when you realize you are alone, or another year has gone by and you are still single. Now it is Valentines’s Day, the holiday of love, romance, showing your partner how much you love them.

But why wait, shouldn’t you be looking for the partner at all time’s? Or if you do have someone you are spending time with, why do we need a special day to remind us to show them how much we care?

Everyday should be the holiday. It’s time to realize that if you don’t do something to meet your future partner, next year will come around again, and you will be in the same position as you are today.

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Click into the Linc to see Founder of Jretromatch in the News with great dating tips for you

http://360mediawatch.com/download.php?vid=2012

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Communication is one of the most important aspect’s to a successful relationship. Not only is it important to express yourself it is also important to listen….and many times we need to train ourselves to do this. We all have to learn to do this, it is vital in dating, as well as for you future when you are married.

So start, maybe you will have a more successful relationship by doing so.
 

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You are ready for marriage. Now it means finding someone who feels the same way and not just to date for a relationship, that could lead to marriage down the road. If you are serious, then when you are speaking with people let them know this.

You should be on the same “page” with the person you are dating. But if you see that after about 6 months the relationship isn’t going anywhere, then maybe it is time to talk to each other and see what is going on. If you are really serious, then don’t waste time being with someone who isn’t.

 I also say, if you decide to “walk” and it was meant to be, then the person will come back and maybe make the final committment to you.

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