Just as a child needs a “time out” occassionally so may you from dating. Know the signs, when you start feeling really frustrated, and nothing seems to be going well. Or when you are only complaining about the experience. Take a time out, this frustration could reflect with your dates, and that is not a good sign.

If you are positive about things, with yourself, your life, then this is what you want to come out. Be happy.

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Have you ever noticed when you are alone the things you say to yourself without thinking? “I’ll never get married,” or “Why would anyone ever find me attractive?” are both examples of negative self talk.

Try to be more positive in your day to day routine, this will come out in the way you feel about yourself, and in the end the way you project yourself with others. 

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When choosing a place for a first date, try to find a place where you can be comfortable in. Don’t go somewhere where there is loud music, the only thing you will be doing is trying to communicate over the noise. Movies, are good, you don’t spend time getting to know one another, even though some feel that at least you can have a conversation afterward about the film if nothing else clicks.

I always like the coffee (tea) date. Go to a nice local coffee place, they are usually quiet, can have a conversation to get to know each other, if things go well, can always go out somewhere else after to continue the conversation, and well, if not, how long does it take for a cup of coffee?

Just go as relaxed as possible, and try to have a conversation about general things, don’t get to intimate and ask really personal questions on a first date.

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Make the time to relax your nerves, and deal with any dating fears before starting to date again. Be prepared. Don’t get back into dating until you feel you are ready. If you start and find yourself still not over the previous relationship then stop dating till you are ready. If need be, find someone who you can speak to about the issues. You just may need to take a short break.

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There is a fine line between having realistic relationship expectations and being open to whatever comes your way. Therefore, keeping an open mind while still remembering what’s truly important to you in a relationship is ideal.

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Dating is not easy, nothing in life is. So work hard at it, just as you would with the challenge of looking for a new job.

Send out “feelers” = networking let everyone you know aware that you are looking to meet someone.

send out resumes = join dating sites and ‘post’ your profile on the site’s

and just keep on looking till you find the right one….

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Just some reminders.

We can only match with what we have in the network. We are not signing the people up, they are signing up themselves. We don’t know how many will join from which cities or districts. So if you are not willing to relocate, or live in an area that someone does not feel they would want to move to, it may be difficult to match you.

Most sites, the matchmakers all use the same database, so if there is no one in the network, by changing matchmakers, this probably won’t help, unless you change your criteria.

If your situation changes, you move, you decide to open yourself up, at first wouldn’t consider to relocate, then be willing, unless you let us know this we can’t open the matching. So keep us updated. If you want to close yourself to take a break for a bit, or take time to review matches, just email us so we know.

Please, help us out, we are not mind readers. We are doing our best.

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I don’t get it, you have someone you are interested in, you have accepted the match, okay now. You would think you could make an effort to meet? Don’t take the attitude of well, only if they will come to me, or fine, I will speak with them, but I won’t take a 40 minutes drive so they willhave to wait till I have another reason to go closer to where they live.

It’s time to wake up, if you are serious about meeting then go and meet. Don’t wait around for it to happen. It won’t!!! Don’t wait around till you may be in there area!!! You could be waisting pressure time with that person. Don’t wait, go for it.

Do you travel to see family? Well this person could eventually be you family. So, stop it, and take things seriously, wake up and stop waiting!!!!

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If you agree to a match you have to follow-up. It is hard enough to find someone that you are compatible with. If you don’t follow-up with that person how are you supposed to know if there is potential. Take things serious. You would make the time for friends, and family – then make the time for the dates

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If you agree to a match you have to follow-up. It is hard enough to find someone that you are compatible with. If you don’t follow-up with that person how are you supposed to know if there is potential. Take things serious. You would make the time for friends, and family – then make the time for the dates

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